Wedding

Reshma, Bharat's opened a design studio

Sanya Ahuja, TNN Jun 1, 2011, 12.00am IST

Designer Reshma was recently heard asking all her married friends to get married again. Why? Because she and her husband Bharat opened their fourth design studio amid friends in the city recently.
The store was inaugurated by hairstylist Sylvie. Plus, it wasn't just the clothes there that had been designed by the designers, but also the store's interiors.
But why are all their stores so close to each other, and all in North Delhi? "Our kids are very young, and we can't manage work
so far away in South Delhi right now. But when they grow up, we'll definitely open up stores all across the capital," explained Reshma. They might not be able to do business far away from home because of kids, but they can perhaps take a holiday to someplace far away with the kids? "Yeah, we're soon going to Singapore, Malaysia and Bangkok," she smiled.

"Our forte is men's wedding wear, but we have now formally launched our bridal wear, which will be available at this studio," said Reshma. "Our collection is designed to enhance the grandeur of the Indian wedding by making the bride and groom the cynosure of all eyes," added Bharat. About the combo sets in their collection - in which the colour combination and embroidery on both, the bride's and groom's outfits, is similar - he said, "These days, couples match their wedding dress, so we thought of designing some combo sets." Peacock motifs, which are a rage these days, were prominent too. "Animal motifs are in, so we had to incorporate that in our designs," informs Reshma.

Gowns, a hot trend at Indian weddings

If styles showcased at the recently held Delhi Couture Week are anything to go by, gowns will rule the wedding season. So, we bring to you trousseau rules for the new-age ultra chic Indian bride...
Do you belong to the wedding school that trains brides to search for that perfect lehenga? Well, it's time to re-dress that issue! The new-age bride is giving the traditional outfit a miss and opting for the gown. With high-end destination and themed weddings (replete with bachelor parties and OTT mehndi ceremonies) becoming the order of the day, it's no secret that shaadis have acquired a truly global appeal. So in the new scheme of things, the gown is being hailed as the new lehenga!

Western fix-ation
If you have already zeroed in on lehengas, sarees or churidars for your marriage, fret not. Just a bit of styling will make sure you are also able to walk down the aisle, 'red carpet' style! Designers suggest a gown for brides, as it's going to be the most stylish statement she can ever make on her special day. "The young, free-spirited Indian bride is not shy to experiment with her wedding trousseau anymore. Gowns that have the same volumes of a lehenga, involve typical Indian draping and accentuate femininity with structured styling are the ones to go for," says designer Shantanu Mehra of Shantanu & Nikhil. But he cautions brides never to pick wedding gowns off the rack. "Instead, opt for personalised styling from a designer who can actually highlight the slim silhouette and hide any unseemly bulge with innovative draping techniques," is his firm advice.
Desi design
And if you're still thinking a white gown is too staid for an Indian wedding, the designer Anju Modi has handy hints for you. She suggests you jazz it up with traditional embroidery patterns and motifs. "Opt for gowns in Indian weaves, deck them up with embroidered Indian imagery like a peacock or parrot, match them with dupattas that need you to cover your hair and add bling through a corset or waist belt if it still looks staid," says Anju.
So go ahead, turn your walk down the aisle into a red carpet affair and actually be the show stopper at your own wedding donning gorgeous gown.
Handy hints from the collections showcased at Delhi Couture Week:
If you are slim around the shoulders and heavy at the hips, then opt for a fitted look at the top. For the bottom, a voluminous 'lehenga' look, which is high on drapes and nets, will work wonders
From: Shantanu & Nikhil
A saree gown is probably the easiest and sexiest way to be the fuse the western style and Indian sensibilities.
From: Gaurav Gupta
A floor length gown that looks like an extension of an anarkali decked with Indian motifs can be a great way to down a gown.
From: Varun Bahl
The sleeveless jacket or koti with lots of gota work can give your flowy gown a truly Indian feel
From: JJ Valaya
Give your gown a chic Indian touch with a broad waist belt and gold coloured borders and traditional indian motifs.
From: Rohit Bal
A blingy corset that doubles as a short sleeve jacket worn over a white gown is perfect for any wedding function.
From: Anju Modi

Indian wedding gets bigger with Shakira

Grand palazzos, gondolas and Colombian pop star Shakira in person! It couldn't get bigger than the grand Indian wedding of Britain-based industrialist Pramod Agarwal's daughter in Venice at a reported cost of 10 million euros.
The May 12-14 affair to remember saw as many as 800 guests and 72 hours of celebration, the high point of which was a performance by Shakira. The three-day extravaganza saw elephants and horses traipsing down the charming Italian city of canals.
Agarwal, an Indian born metals commodities trader and investor, hosted the wedding of his daughter Vinita to Muqit Teja at the San Clemente Palace Hotel and Resort.

According to weddingsutra.com, a huge team of coordinators and specialists from Mumbai and Delhi was flown down to conceptualise the grand affair, which included logistics and hospitality teams, decor tycoon Sumant Jayakrishnan along with ace photographers Badal and Raja Jain, while well-known chefs from India took care of the Indian cuisine.
This is not the first time an international artist has performed at an Indian wedding. International popstar Akon also performed at the wedding reception of Mumbai socialites Kajal Fabiani and Gaurav Assomull in Monte Carlo in March this year.
Bollywood is, of course, not far behind. From Shah Rukh Khan and Malaika Arora to Neha Dhupia and Minissha Lamba, stars have often been seen performing at the weddings of business tycoons and politicians.
Congress leader Kanwar Singh Tanwar's son's marriage in Delhi, for instance, saw a slew of Bollywood stars taking to the stage. These included Shah Rukh, Neha Dhupia, Zarine Khan and Minissha Lamba.
In 2004, ace businessman Laxmi Mittal's daughter's wedding saw Shah Rukh, Juhi Chawla, Saif Ali Khan and Rani Mukherjee showing dance moves choreographed by Farah Khan. Akshay Kumar and Aishwarya Rai also set the stage on fire with high-energy performances.
His brother Pramod celebrated his birthday in a lavish bash in Central London. Sajid Khan hosted the event, Shah Rukh played James Bond, while Bipasha Basu, Celina Jaitley and Dia Mirza were also the part of the celebrations.
The week-long mega-wedding of the two sons of Sahara business group chief Subrota Roy in 2004 was also a star-studded affair with stars like Amitabh Bachchan and Aishwarya. The guests were entertained by a music group flown in from London and dances choreographed by a top Bollywood dance director.
Industrialist Pradeep Dhoot's son Saurabh's marriage to Radhika Singhal was also full of celebrities like Bipasha and Malaika and King Khan. Katrina Kaif also gave a dance performance at the wedding.

Ali Merchant back to create problem for Akshara

Ali Merchant is returning for the third time in Rajan Shahi's Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlaata Hai.
As Rashmi (Naitik's sister) is all set to tie the knot, his character Rituraj will be back to add more drama to an otherwise smooth running track of the show. The guy has always created trouble and nuisance for the Singhania family. Hina Khan aka Akshara will be troubled the most with him resurfacing on the show. Informs a source, "Everyone in the family will be harrassed with his behaviour and attitude. Akshara will be reminded of her past and the fact that Rituraj was the very first suitor who refused to marry her. Expectantly, his entry will result in utter chaos in the show." Well an Indian wedding without drama is beyond imagination!

Another big, fat Indian wedding on the anvil

Close on the heels of the Murthy wedding reception in the city, Vijay Mallaya will be throwing a big bash for his stepdaughter Laila Mehmood's wedding in Bali.
According to sources the wedding is going to be bigger than anything Bangaloreans have ever seen before.
According to inside sources, Laila Mehmood, Vijay Mallya's stepdaughter from his wife Rekha, is set to tie the knot with sweetheart Samar Singh, a senior management employee in Mallaya's group, at Bali this weekend.
The three-day wedding extravaganza will take place at a resort in Bali, from June 18 to 20.

Guests from Bangalore will include family members and very close friends who will be arriving in Bali, the day before. Sources said that Mallya is putting up all the guests at the resort at his expense.
The celebrations will kickstart with a sunset party at the resort hosted by Laila's siblings Kabir and Sidhartha. The mehendi is on June 19 with a brunch party, followed by the sangeet the same night. On June 20 is the big red-letter day where the Laila and Samar will be joined as man and wife in the afternoon at the resort itself. The ceremony will be followed by a reception for the guests after which, the party will move on to a hip nightclub.
The guest list includes the who's who of Bangalore including socialite Latha Bhandari, hoteliers Bobby and Abhishek Kamani, Rashmi Vaswani, Liaquat Ali Khan among others. It is learnt that not more than a dozen invitees from Bangalore will be attending the wedding in Bali.

Varanasi pandit for Heidi Klum

Heidi Klum. (Reuters Photo)VARANASI: A Varanasi pandit would travel to Mexico to bless German supermodel Heidi Klum and her singer husband, Seal, on their third marriage anniversary on May 10.
In fact, the invitation card, that arrived last week, took the recipient, Shailaish Tripathi — a pandit and government-approved tourist guide — by surprise. Designed in Indian style with Hindu symbols like bangles, Lord Ganesha, the card also has 'Om' inscribed on it.
The couple had met Tripathi during their visit to Lord Vishwanath's city in September last year.
Tripathi said the couple was mesmerised by the city life and culture. Heidi Klum and Seal had also witnessed the Ganga Aarti at the Dashashwamedh Ghat and were enchanted by the chanting of Vedic mantras and the scenic beauty.





"I told them about most of the things they wanted to know. I was surprised when they expressed the desire to have an Indian wedding," said Tripathi adding, "I fulfilled their desire and performed a symbolic marriage ceremony for them."
"I was unaware about another surprise that was in store for me till last Friday, when I received an invitation to come over to Mexico and perform same rituals on their wedding anniversary," he said, adding, "Being a singer himself, Seal was impressed with the rhythmic presentation of Vedic mantras."
Initially, Tripathi was unaware that he was acting as a guide for a celebrity couple. "I came to know about them later," he said.
He said Indian culture has the potential to bring the world closer. "This potential can be exploited by promoting tourism," he said.

Reshma, Bharat's opened a design studio

 

Designer Reshma was recently heard asking all her married friends to get married again. Why? Because she and her husband Bharat opened their fourth design studio amid friends in the city recently.
The store was inaugurated by hairstylist Sylvie. Plus, it wasn't just the clothes there that had been designed by the designers, but also the store's interiors.
But why are all their stores so close to each other, and all in North Delhi? "Our kids are very young, and we can't manage work
so far away in South Delhi right now. But when they grow up, we'll definitely open up stores all across the capital," explained Reshma. They might not be able to do business far away from home because of kids, but they can perhaps take a holiday to someplace far away with the kids? "Yeah, we're soon going to Singapore, Malaysia and Bangkok," she smiled.

Chatwals' reception: Clinton steals the show

NEW DELHI: "Namaste !" That's how former US president Bill Clinton addressed an Indian guest at Vikram and Priya Chatwal's wedding reception. The greeting wasn't a hurriedly-learnt effort to impress the gathering. It was the result of Clinton's growing cultural closeness to the country. "I simply love India, that's why I keep coming back here," he said.
This was Clinton's first Indian wedding experience and he seemed to have thoroughly enjoyed himself. So much so, that he wished that his daughter, Chelsea, had an Indian wedding!
As tabla sounds echoed in the background, Clinton was tapping his feet, hobnobbing with guests and charming everyone during the Black-and-White theme evening at Maurya Sheraton. ''When you're 50, weddings bring out strange emotions in you. I've never attended a wedding in India. But this is an enchanting evening, I'm extremely happy I could be here. Every father of a girl would wish he gets his daughter married like Sant Chatwal. This is an amazing wedding."

He didn't stop there. "I really like the colours and rituals of an Indian wedding. I wish I can have an Indian wedding for my daughter too."
Great thought. In fact, we were so excited by the idea that we morphed a photo to see how the former first family of America would look decked up in typical desi regalia. And we have to admit, it certainly makes for a pretty picture. We're sure the Clintons would agree.

Wedding

Reshma, Bharat's opened a design studio

Sanya Ahuja, TNN Jun 1, 2011, 12.00am IST

Designer Reshma was recently heard asking all her married friends to get married again. Why? Because she and her husband Bharat opened their fourth design studio amid friends in the city recently.
The store was inaugurated by hairstylist Sylvie. Plus, it wasn't just the clothes there that had been designed by the designers, but also the store's interiors.
But why are all their stores so close to each other, and all in North Delhi? "Our kids are very young, and we can't manage work
so far away in South Delhi right now. But when they grow up, we'll definitely open up stores all across the capital," explained Reshma. They might not be able to do business far away from home because of kids, but they can perhaps take a holiday to someplace far away with the kids? "Yeah, we're soon going to Singapore, Malaysia and Bangkok," she smiled.

"Our forte is men's wedding wear, but we have now formally launched our bridal wear, which will be available at this studio," said Reshma. "Our collection is designed to enhance the grandeur of the Indian wedding by making the bride and groom the cynosure of all eyes," added Bharat. About the combo sets in their collection - in which the colour combination and embroidery on both, the bride's and groom's outfits, is similar - he said, "These days, couples match their wedding dress, so we thought of designing some combo sets." Peacock motifs, which are a rage these days, were prominent too. "Animal motifs are in, so we had to incorporate that in our designs," informs Reshma.

Gowns, a hot trend at Indian weddings

If styles showcased at the recently held Delhi Couture Week are anything to go by, gowns will rule the wedding season. So, we bring to you trousseau rules for the new-age ultra chic Indian bride...
Do you belong to the wedding school that trains brides to search for that perfect lehenga? Well, it's time to re-dress that issue! The new-age bride is giving the traditional outfit a miss and opting for the gown. With high-end destination and themed weddings (replete with bachelor parties and OTT mehndi ceremonies) becoming the order of the day, it's no secret that shaadis have acquired a truly global appeal. So in the new scheme of things, the gown is being hailed as the new lehenga!

Western fix-ation
If you have already zeroed in on lehengas, sarees or churidars for your marriage, fret not. Just a bit of styling will make sure you are also able to walk down the aisle, 'red carpet' style! Designers suggest a gown for brides, as it's going to be the most stylish statement she can ever make on her special day. "The young, free-spirited Indian bride is not shy to experiment with her wedding trousseau anymore. Gowns that have the same volumes of a lehenga, involve typical Indian draping and accentuate femininity with structured styling are the ones to go for," says designer Shantanu Mehra of Shantanu & Nikhil. But he cautions brides never to pick wedding gowns off the rack. "Instead, opt for personalised styling from a designer who can actually highlight the slim silhouette and hide any unseemly bulge with innovative draping techniques," is his firm advice.
Desi design
And if you're still thinking a white gown is too staid for an Indian wedding, the designer Anju Modi has handy hints for you. She suggests you jazz it up with traditional embroidery patterns and motifs. "Opt for gowns in Indian weaves, deck them up with embroidered Indian imagery like a peacock or parrot, match them with dupattas that need you to cover your hair and add bling through a corset or waist belt if it still looks staid," says Anju.
So go ahead, turn your walk down the aisle into a red carpet affair and actually be the show stopper at your own wedding donning gorgeous gown.
Handy hints from the collections showcased at Delhi Couture Week:
If you are slim around the shoulders and heavy at the hips, then opt for a fitted look at the top. For the bottom, a voluminous 'lehenga' look, which is high on drapes and nets, will work wonders
From: Shantanu & Nikhil
A saree gown is probably the easiest and sexiest way to be the fuse the western style and Indian sensibilities.
From: Gaurav Gupta
A floor length gown that looks like an extension of an anarkali decked with Indian motifs can be a great way to down a gown.
From: Varun Bahl
The sleeveless jacket or koti with lots of gota work can give your flowy gown a truly Indian feel
From: JJ Valaya
Give your gown a chic Indian touch with a broad waist belt and gold coloured borders and traditional indian motifs.
From: Rohit Bal
A blingy corset that doubles as a short sleeve jacket worn over a white gown is perfect for any wedding function.
From: Anju Modi

Indian wedding gets bigger with Shakira

Grand palazzos, gondolas and Colombian pop star Shakira in person! It couldn't get bigger than the grand Indian wedding of Britain-based industrialist Pramod Agarwal's daughter in Venice at a reported cost of 10 million euros.
The May 12-14 affair to remember saw as many as 800 guests and 72 hours of celebration, the high point of which was a performance by Shakira. The three-day extravaganza saw elephants and horses traipsing down the charming Italian city of canals.
Agarwal, an Indian born metals commodities trader and investor, hosted the wedding of his daughter Vinita to Muqit Teja at the San Clemente Palace Hotel and Resort.

According to weddingsutra.com, a huge team of coordinators and specialists from Mumbai and Delhi was flown down to conceptualise the grand affair, which included logistics and hospitality teams, decor tycoon Sumant Jayakrishnan along with ace photographers Badal and Raja Jain, while well-known chefs from India took care of the Indian cuisine.
This is not the first time an international artist has performed at an Indian wedding. International popstar Akon also performed at the wedding reception of Mumbai socialites Kajal Fabiani and Gaurav Assomull in Monte Carlo in March this year.
Bollywood is, of course, not far behind. From Shah Rukh Khan and Malaika Arora to Neha Dhupia and Minissha Lamba, stars have often been seen performing at the weddings of business tycoons and politicians.
Congress leader Kanwar Singh Tanwar's son's marriage in Delhi, for instance, saw a slew of Bollywood stars taking to the stage. These included Shah Rukh, Neha Dhupia, Zarine Khan and Minissha Lamba.
In 2004, ace businessman Laxmi Mittal's daughter's wedding saw Shah Rukh, Juhi Chawla, Saif Ali Khan and Rani Mukherjee showing dance moves choreographed by Farah Khan. Akshay Kumar and Aishwarya Rai also set the stage on fire with high-energy performances.
His brother Pramod celebrated his birthday in a lavish bash in Central London. Sajid Khan hosted the event, Shah Rukh played James Bond, while Bipasha Basu, Celina Jaitley and Dia Mirza were also the part of the celebrations.
The week-long mega-wedding of the two sons of Sahara business group chief Subrota Roy in 2004 was also a star-studded affair with stars like Amitabh Bachchan and Aishwarya. The guests were entertained by a music group flown in from London and dances choreographed by a top Bollywood dance director.
Industrialist Pradeep Dhoot's son Saurabh's marriage to Radhika Singhal was also full of celebrities like Bipasha and Malaika and King Khan. Katrina Kaif also gave a dance performance at the wedding.

Ali Merchant back to create problem for Akshara

Ali Merchant is returning for the third time in Rajan Shahi's Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlaata Hai.
As Rashmi (Naitik's sister) is all set to tie the knot, his character Rituraj will be back to add more drama to an otherwise smooth running track of the show. The guy has always created trouble and nuisance for the Singhania family. Hina Khan aka Akshara will be troubled the most with him resurfacing on the show. Informs a source, "Everyone in the family will be harrassed with his behaviour and attitude. Akshara will be reminded of her past and the fact that Rituraj was the very first suitor who refused to marry her. Expectantly, his entry will result in utter chaos in the show." Well an Indian wedding without drama is beyond imagination!

Another big, fat Indian wedding on the anvil

Close on the heels of the Murthy wedding reception in the city, Vijay Mallaya will be throwing a big bash for his stepdaughter Laila Mehmood's wedding in Bali.
According to sources the wedding is going to be bigger than anything Bangaloreans have ever seen before.
According to inside sources, Laila Mehmood, Vijay Mallya's stepdaughter from his wife Rekha, is set to tie the knot with sweetheart Samar Singh, a senior management employee in Mallaya's group, at Bali this weekend.
The three-day wedding extravaganza will take place at a resort in Bali, from June 18 to 20.

Guests from Bangalore will include family members and very close friends who will be arriving in Bali, the day before. Sources said that Mallya is putting up all the guests at the resort at his expense.
The celebrations will kickstart with a sunset party at the resort hosted by Laila's siblings Kabir and Sidhartha. The mehendi is on June 19 with a brunch party, followed by the sangeet the same night. On June 20 is the big red-letter day where the Laila and Samar will be joined as man and wife in the afternoon at the resort itself. The ceremony will be followed by a reception for the guests after which, the party will move on to a hip nightclub.
The guest list includes the who's who of Bangalore including socialite Latha Bhandari, hoteliers Bobby and Abhishek Kamani, Rashmi Vaswani, Liaquat Ali Khan among others. It is learnt that not more than a dozen invitees from Bangalore will be attending the wedding in Bali.

Varanasi pandit for Heidi Klum

Heidi Klum. (Reuters Photo)VARANASI: A Varanasi pandit would travel to Mexico to bless German supermodel Heidi Klum and her singer husband, Seal, on their third marriage anniversary on May 10.
In fact, the invitation card, that arrived last week, took the recipient, Shailaish Tripathi — a pandit and government-approved tourist guide — by surprise. Designed in Indian style with Hindu symbols like bangles, Lord Ganesha, the card also has 'Om' inscribed on it.
The couple had met Tripathi during their visit to Lord Vishwanath's city in September last year.
Tripathi said the couple was mesmerised by the city life and culture. Heidi Klum and Seal had also witnessed the Ganga Aarti at the Dashashwamedh Ghat and were enchanted by the chanting of Vedic mantras and the scenic beauty.





"I told them about most of the things they wanted to know. I was surprised when they expressed the desire to have an Indian wedding," said Tripathi adding, "I fulfilled their desire and performed a symbolic marriage ceremony for them."
"I was unaware about another surprise that was in store for me till last Friday, when I received an invitation to come over to Mexico and perform same rituals on their wedding anniversary," he said, adding, "Being a singer himself, Seal was impressed with the rhythmic presentation of Vedic mantras."
Initially, Tripathi was unaware that he was acting as a guide for a celebrity couple. "I came to know about them later," he said.
He said Indian culture has the potential to bring the world closer. "This potential can be exploited by promoting tourism," he said.

Reshma, Bharat's opened a design studio

 

Designer Reshma was recently heard asking all her married friends to get married again. Why? Because she and her husband Bharat opened their fourth design studio amid friends in the city recently.
The store was inaugurated by hairstylist Sylvie. Plus, it wasn't just the clothes there that had been designed by the designers, but also the store's interiors.
But why are all their stores so close to each other, and all in North Delhi? "Our kids are very young, and we can't manage work
so far away in South Delhi right now. But when they grow up, we'll definitely open up stores all across the capital," explained Reshma. They might not be able to do business far away from home because of kids, but they can perhaps take a holiday to someplace far away with the kids? "Yeah, we're soon going to Singapore, Malaysia and Bangkok," she smiled.

Chatwals' reception: Clinton steals the show

NEW DELHI: "Namaste !" That's how former US president Bill Clinton addressed an Indian guest at Vikram and Priya Chatwal's wedding reception. The greeting wasn't a hurriedly-learnt effort to impress the gathering. It was the result of Clinton's growing cultural closeness to the country. "I simply love India, that's why I keep coming back here," he said.
This was Clinton's first Indian wedding experience and he seemed to have thoroughly enjoyed himself. So much so, that he wished that his daughter, Chelsea, had an Indian wedding!
As tabla sounds echoed in the background, Clinton was tapping his feet, hobnobbing with guests and charming everyone during the Black-and-White theme evening at Maurya Sheraton. ''When you're 50, weddings bring out strange emotions in you. I've never attended a wedding in India. But this is an enchanting evening, I'm extremely happy I could be here. Every father of a girl would wish he gets his daughter married like Sant Chatwal. This is an amazing wedding."

He didn't stop there. "I really like the colours and rituals of an Indian wedding. I wish I can have an Indian wedding for my daughter too."
Great thought. In fact, we were so excited by the idea that we morphed a photo to see how the former first family of America would look decked up in typical desi regalia. And we have to admit, it certainly makes for a pretty picture. We're sure the Clintons would agree.

Ceremony

South Asian weddings encompass so many different types of wedding ceremonies. Learn the intricate details that make up each type of ceremony.

Ceremony: East Meets West Indian wedding ceremonies are full of rich details. But if you’re looking for a modern twist that incorporates your American culture, try incorporating some Western wedding details. Make sure to clear any questions with your officiant to ensure that no traditions are dishonored.

Sikh Wedding Ceremony: Anand Karaj The Sikh Anand Karaj (Ceremony of Bliss) is conducted in the Gurdwara (Sikh temple). The Baraat arrives at the Gurdwara with the groom traditionally on horseback along with a young boy. The close family and friends from the bride and groom’s side meet to perform the Ardaas (Sikh Prayer). This is followed by the Milni ceremony where members of both sides meet and exchange hugs, garlands and well wishes.

Gujarati Wedding Celebration Planning a Gujarati wedding? This article will explain all of the events involved in a Gujarati wedding celebration. There are many pre-wedding events that include both festive dancing and religious prayers. During the wedding ceremony, there are many rituals and customs that are incorporated that set these weddings apart from other Hindu weddings.

Indian Bridal Churra Punjabi weddings are extravagant events that have many rituals and ceremonies. Amongst the many different traditions is the one of a bride being given her Churra (also spelled Chura or Choora.) A slightly different version of this article was posted at Indian Women Online. The photographs and article are reproduced with permission Welcome The gates of the wedding hall are adorned with full-grown plantain trees, signifying evergreen plenty for endless generations. Overhead festoons of mango leaves signify the never fading relationship to begin here. Notes of nadaswaram heard loud and clear to signify the union here is sacred and divine. Kolam or rangoli designs at the doorsteps match the mood of the occasion, beckoning a hearty welcome to the well wishers who arrive for the function. At the threshold of the hall, sprinkling of rose water perfumes the visitors. Offering of flowers to women express a wish of sowbhayam for the lady guest. The sugar candy brings forth the sweetness of happy event that the visitor has arrived to take part in. The Evening Before The Wedding The evening prior to the wedding day, the bridegroom is brought in a procession from a temple in a flower-decorated vehicle. He is escorted by the bride’s parents and welcomed at the marriage mandap. This is a social function called ‘Janna Vasam’ in south India. Through such a parade, public approval is sought of the groom, chosen by the family. After reaching the marriage hall, there is a formal bethoral ceremony signifying the agreement between the families for the proposed alliance. The Day Of The Wedding The Preliminary Invocations Ganapathi Puja During a marriage, Ganapathi, the God, the remover of obstacles is invoked to keep away all impediments for such an auspicious function. Navagraha puja is performed to propitiate the nine astral planets that rule over man's destinies. Vratham The marriage ceremonies begin with vratham performed separately by the bride and the groom. For the bride, it means the tying of the kappu, the holy thread on her wrists, which is meant to ward off all evil sprits. It symbolizes a kind of protective armor for the bride. For the groom vratham begins with invocations involving the Gods Indra, Soma, Chandra and Agni. From thereon the groom prepares himself for a new chapter in his life as a householder or grihasta. The days of his bachelorhood or brahmacharya are over now. The acceptance of his is all what the vratham is about. Kasi Yatra This is a very important part of the ceremony. Immediately after his student life, the young bachelor has two alternatives before him – Grihasta or Sanyas. Being by nature in a satwic state due to strict adherence of bachelorhood and observance of austerities, he is drawn towards asceticism. Therefore he makes his way to Kasi, complete with slippers, umbrella, a fan made of bamboo etc. On his way the bride’s father intervenes and advises him of the superiority of married life to an ascetic life. He also promises to give his daughter as companion to face the challenges of life. The umbrella is to remain with the groom, to remind him in the future of this advice. As promised his wife stands by him in his life. Malai Mathal The bride and groom are lifted to the shoulders of their respective maternal uncles. This is an expression of continuing sibling support to their mothers. And in that position the two garland each other thrice for a complete union. In the shastras, the exchange of garlands symbolizes their unification, as one soul in two bodies. It is inward acceptance by each of the very fragrance in the other. Oonchal The marrying couple is seated on a swing. They rock forth and back, as women sing songs to praise the couple. The bride and groom are given a sweet concoction of milk, sugar and bananas to eat. Water and lighted lamps are circulated around the swing in order to guard against demons and ghosts. Colored globules of cooked rice are waved in a circular motion and thrown away to propitiate the evil spirits. The chains of the swing signify the eternal karmic link with the Almighty. The to and fro motion represents the undulating sea-waves of life. Yet in mind and body they shall move in harmony – steady and stable. Pallikai Seeds Sowing This is a fertility rite. Pallikais are earthern pots prepared a day earlier. Pots spread at the base with hariali grass and Bael leaves (vilvam). Nine kinds of presoaked cereals are ceremoniously sown in these pots by sumangalis. After the marriage, the sprouted seedlings are released in a river or pool. This ritual invokes the blessing of the eight direction quartered guardian angels (Ashtadikh Paalaks) for a healthy life and progeny to the couple. The Main Wedding Vara Puja The feet of the bridegroom are washed in milk and wiped off with silk. This is done by the bride’s father. As a brahmachari, the groom is represented as the male principle of Godhead. The Design of the Mangal Sutra The design of the mangal sutra varies from family to family as per tradition. In Shivite families the design of the tulasi madam is highlighted where as others could have the shiva lingam or Goddess Meenakshi represented. As the Mangal Sutra lands on the middle of the bride’s chest, it symbolizes that her man has occupied the whole of her being through her heart. The bride in all ceremonies is represented as the female principle of Godhead – the Shakti. Kanya Danam The bride is made to sit on her father’s lap and is given away as a gift by him to the bridegroom. On the bride’s head, a ring made of Darbha of Kusa grass is placed. And over it is placed a yoke. The gold Mangal Sutra or Thali is placed on the aperture of the yoke. And water is poured though the aperture. The mantras chanted at this time say: “Let this gold multiply your wealth, Let this water purify your married life, And may your prosperity increase. Offer yourself to your husband.” The symbolism of the yoke is drawn out of ancient rural life where the only mode of transport for households was the bullock cart. It is supposed to signify that just as a bullock cart cannot run with just one bull, the marriage needs both the bride and groom. Both of them have to face their responsibilities together. The bride is then given an auspicious ablution. A new sari, exclusive for the occasion, called the koorai is chosen. The colour of the koorai is ‘arraku’ i.e. red, the colour associated with Shakti. This sari is draped around the bride by the sister of the bridegroom, signifying her welcome to the bride. A belt made of reed grass is then tied around the bride’s waist. The mantras then chant: "She standeth here, pure before the holy fire. As one blessed with boons of a good mind, a healthy body, life-long companionship of her husband (Sumangali Bhagyam) and children with long lives. She standeth as one who is avowed to stand by her husband virtuously. Be she tied with this reed grass rope to the sacrament of marriage." Thanksgiving vedic hymns follow, to the celestial caretakers of her childhood, the dieties of Soma, Gandharva and Agni. Having attained nubility, the girl is now free to be given over to the care of the human -- her man. The vedic concept underlying this ritual is figuratively that in her infancy Soma givers her the coolness of the moon. In the next stage of life the Gandharvas gave her playfulness and beauty. And when she becomes a maiden Agni gave her passions. The father of the bride while offering his daughter chants: “I offer ye my daughter: A maiden virtuous, good natured, very wise, decked with ornaments to the best of my abilities. With all that she shall guard thy Dharma, Wealth and Love” The bridegroom returns his assurance to the bride’s father saying three times that he shall remain for ever her companion in joy and sorrow, in this life and life after. Kankana Dhaarana The bride ties a string fastened to a piece of turmeric around the wrist of the bridegroom to bind themselves by a religious vow. It is only after tying the kankanam that the bridegroom gets the right to touch the bride. A little later, the bridegroom ties a kankanam to the bride’s wrist. Mangalya Dharanam The tying of the Mangal Sutra or Thali takes place at exactly the pre-determined auspicious hour. The bride is seated over a sheaf of grain-layden hay looking eastward while the bridegroom faces westward. The bridegroom puts the gold Mangal Sutra around the neck of the bride. As he does so the Nadaswaram is played loud and fast so as to muffle any inauspicious sounds at the critical hour. This is called Getti Melam. Sumangali ladies sing auspicious songs. At the same time as the mangal sutra a turmeric thread is also put around the bride’s neck. To this three knots are tied. The first one by the bridegroom. The other two knots are tied by the groom’s sister to make the bride a part of their family. The vedic hymn recited by the bridegroom when he ties the knot is: "I pray to the Almighty that I be blessed with a long life. I tie this knot around your neck. Oh Soubhagyawati, may providence bestow on you a fulfilling life of a Sumangali for a hundred years to come!" Paani Graharam This means holding hands. The groom holds the hand of the bride. The mantras say: "The Devas have offered you to me in order that I may live the life of a Grihasta. We shall not part from each other even when we grow old." Saptha Padhi Holding the bride’s hand the bridegroom walks seven steps around the holy fire with her. This is the most important part of the marriage ceremonly. And only when they walk these seven steps together (i.e. perform the saptha padhi) is the marriage complete. With each step they take a vow. The belief is that when one walks seven steps with another, one become’s the other’s friend. The mantras said at this time mean: "Ye who have walked with me, become my companion, whereby I acquire your friendship. We shall remain together – Inseparable. Let us make a vow together. We shall love, share the same food, share our strengths, thesame tastes. We shall be of one mind. We shall observe the vows together. I shall be the Sama and you the Rig. I shall be the upper world and you the earth. I shall be the sukhilam and you the holder. Together we shall live, beget children and other riches. Come thou, o sweet worded girl." Pala Dhanam Gifts are exchanged between the families of the bride and groom. Any gift not accompanied by a token gesture of a coin of small denomination that represents the stored value of human effort is considered incomplete; thus respecting the value of human effort through which wealth is acquired. Also no gift shall be taken without a return gesture, which merits the gift received. Pala Dhanam as ordained by the scriptures is thus an action signifying mutual arrangements between the families, to be based on the principle of equality and respect for each other irrespective of one’s economic stature in life. The return gesture by the family of the groom could never equal to the gift of the bride given to the groom. Hence, the same coin given to the groom’s family is returned to the bride’s family an acknowledgment of the priceless gift received. Pradhana Homam A crucial part of the wedding is the homage paid by the couple to Agni, the God of Fire. They couple goes around the fire, and feed it with ghee and twigs of nine types of holy trees as sacrificial fuel. The fumes that arise possess medicinal, curative and cleansing effects on the bodies of the couple. Agni, the mightiest power in the cosmos, the sacred purifier, the all-round benefactor is deemed as a witness to the sacred marriage. Hence the term ‘Agni Saakshi’ or witness by fire. Treading on the Grindstone Holding the bride’s left toe the bridegroom helps her to tread on a grindstone kept on the right side of a fire. The mantras chanted say: “Mount on this stone, and let thy mind be rock firm, unperturbed by the trials and tribulations of life.” This ritual is symbolic of the solid rock foundation for the union. Arundhati and Dhruva Star Next the groom shows the bride the star Arundhati (from the Saptha Rishi or Great Bear constellation) as also Dhruva or the pole star. Arundhati is the wife of the Vashishta Maharishi and exemplified as the ideal wife - the embodiment of charity. Dhruva is the one who attained immortality through single-minded devotion and perseverance. This is symbolic of the fact that such virtues are to be emulated throughout marital life. Laaja Homam This comprises the bride’s own offering into the sacrificial fire. As an expression of sibling support to her marriage her brother helps her. He gives her a handful of puffed rice grains which she hands to the bridegroom, who on her behalf, feeds it to the fire. Through this food offering, the bride seeks a long life for her husband and for propagation of her family. Participation of the bride’s brother indicates the continuance of links between the two families even after marriage. The couple circles the fire three times. The feeding of puffed rice to the fire is also repeated thrice. Showering of Akshadai Akshadai , i.e. rice grains coloured with turmeric and saffron are showered on the couple by elders and invitees as benediction. Graha Pravesham Taking with her fire from the Laaja Homam, the bride takes leave of her home and enters the new home of her in-laws. The vedic hymns recited at this time sound like the mother’s advice to her daughter: "Be the queen of your husband’s home. May your husband glorify your virtues! Conduct yourself in such a way that you win your mother-in-law’s love. And be in the good books of your sister-in-law." The Evening Functions Nalangu The evening of the marriage day is the time to relax and play. The newly wed wife calls her husband for play, inviting him through a song. Much to the merriment of all gathered, there follows a series of playful games. The bride anointing the groom’s feet with colour paste, fanning him, showing him a mirror, breaking papads over each other’s head. Wrenching the betel pack from each other’s hands. Rolling the coconut from one to another as in playing ball and so on. During these events women sing songs, making fun of the bride, the groom and the in-laws. These events bring out the qualities of the bride and the groom’s sporting spirit, kindness, co-operative nature thus surfacing the hidden traits for the other to note, thus bringing about better understanding and compatibility. The Night Time Homams These are the functions performed on the evening of the wedding. Jayaathi Homam This is performed to propitiate the Gandharvas and other deities. The Gandharvas and other deities. The Gandharvas are the soft natured celestial beings generally associated with the finer sentiments of life, that are so necessary for a fulfilling married life. Pravesa Homam This is done to solemnize the bride’s entry into the husband’s home. The sacrificial fire is brought along by the bride signifying that through her, new lives would be brought forth into this world; same as the fact that fire brings forth new fires. Sesha Homam Fire oblation with the residual ghee, a little of which is sprinkled on the bride’s head four times. The leftover ghee is considered sacred, the whole of which was offered to Agni. ‘Sesha’ means leftover. The idea of sprinkling this residual ghee on the bride’s head signifies strength to be drawn from the four vedas; which is left over from one yuga or era to another. Thamboola Charvanam The bride’s brother gives the ceremonial first betel to the couple to chew. Betel leaf is supposed to have aphrodisiacal properties and to be eaten only after marriage. Other gifts are also given to bless the couple with long lives and children. Mangala Arathi A solution of lime and turmeric powder is prepared on a plate, circled around before the couple and thrown away to ward of evil. This is also done a number of times during the wedding ceremony. Shanthi Muhurtham The consummation of the marriage at night fixed for an auspicious time for a happy, ever-lasting married life that is full of understanding and care. Two souls united in a sacred act of fulfillment, to bring forth progeny as nature's best creation. Notes Nadaswaram : Traditional South Indian music ensemble including the tavil (drum), nadaswaram (a sort of wind instrument) and small cymbals. Kolam or Rangoli : Designs made on the floor with rice flour paste Sowbhayam : Literally meaning good fortune. It is intended to be the good fortune of never being widowed. Mandap : A structure or building where the marriage is conducted. Puja : Prayer or worship Navagraha : The nine planets (Nava : nine, Graha : planets) Vratham : Rituals Kappu : Holy thread Indra : The King of the Gods. He is the one who rules swarga or heaven. Soma : The Moon God Chandra : The Moon Agni : The Fire God Grihasta : Householder Brahmacharya : Bachelorhood Kasi Yatra : Travel or pilgrimage to Kasi Sanyas : Asceticism Satwic : Holy and pure state of body and mind. Kasi : The most holy place of pilgrimage for a devout Hindu Malai Mathal : Exchange of Garlands Shastras : The holy scriptures Oonchal : Swing Karmic : Pertaining to karma or deeds Pallikais : A kind of earthen pot in which seeds and leaves are sown as part of a fertility ritual Sumangalis : Women who are not widowed. Vara : Groom Mangal Sutra : The ornament worn by the bride on a long chain around the neck. Mangal Sutra literally means Auspicious Bond. The Mangal Sutra in South India is akin to the wedding ring of the west. It is also called Thali. Tulasi madam : Tulasi i.e. basil which has several medicinal properties is considered to be very holy. The courtyard of every household is supposed to have a ‘madam’ (pronounce as ma - as in mother, dum - as in dumbell) or planter in which tulasi is grown. This is worshipped daily in most South Indian households. Shiva lingam : The phallic symbol which represents Lord Shiva whose abode is Mount Kailas on the Himalayan Mountains. Goddess Meenakshi : The manifestation of Shakti and consort of Lord Shiva. Kanya : Girl or literally virgin girl Danam : Gift Darbha : Dried grass Kusa grass : A variety of grass that is considered to be sacred Mantras : A holy incantation or chant Sari : The dress worn by women which is a long piece of cloth that is draped around. The sari is of various lengths and is worn in various ways through out the country. The most common one is 6 yards long with most of it going around like a skirt and a long part of it hanging over the shoulder. Koorai : Sari worn in a style that, according to tradition, can be worn only by married women. This is 9 yards long and is worn in a style that goes loosely between the legs. The long drape that is left over is then wound around the upper part of the body. Sumangali Bhagyam : the good fortune of never being widowed. Gandharva : Celestial angels who are famed for their good looks. Kankana : or kankanam - Literally means wrist ornament : a bangle or a bracelet Dhaaranam : Literally means wearing Mangalya : Another name for Mangal Sutra Devas : Gods Saptha : Literally means seven Padhi : Steps Sama and Rig : Sama and Rig are two of the four Vedas. Pala Dhanam : Gift giving Homam : Sacrifice Ghee : Clarified Butter Saptha Rishi : Literally Seven Sages Maharishi : Maharishi literally means great sage. Vashishta was one of the great sages from Vedic times. Dhruva : renowned for his single-minded devotion to God and hence was given the boon of becoming the never moving pole star. Akshadai : Blessing given by elders when grains of rice are showered on whomever is seeking blessings. Graha Pravesham : Literally means entering the house. A ritual whereby the bride goes to her new home i.e. her husband’s home for the first time. Nalangu : A session for fun and games Papad : A wafer like fried snack made of rice and other lentils.

Ceremony

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The sugar candy brings forth the sweetness of happy event that the visitor has arrived to take part in. The Evening Before The Wedding The evening prior to the wedding day, the bridegroom is brought in a procession from a temple in a flower-decorated vehicle. He is escorted by the bride’s parents and welcomed at the marriage mandap. This is a social function called ‘Janna Vasam’ in south India. Through such a parade, public approval is sought of the groom, chosen by the family. After reaching the marriage hall, there is a formal bethoral ceremony signifying the agreement between the families for the proposed alliance. The Day Of The Wedding The Preliminary Invocations Ganapathi Puja During a marriage, Ganapathi, the God, the remover of obstacles is invoked to keep away all impediments for such an auspicious function. Navagraha puja is performed to propitiate the nine astral planets that rule over man's destinies. Vratham The marriage ceremonies begin with vratham performed separately by the bride and the groom. For the bride, it means the tying of the kappu, the holy thread on her wrists, which is meant to ward off all evil sprits. It symbolizes a kind of protective armor for the bride. For the groom vratham begins with invocations involving the Gods Indra, Soma, Chandra and Agni. From thereon the groom prepares himself for a new chapter in his life as a householder or grihasta. The days of his bachelorhood or brahmacharya are over now. The acceptance of his is all what the vratham is about. Kasi Yatra This is a very important part of the ceremony. Immediately after his student life, the young bachelor has two alternatives before him – Grihasta or Sanyas. Being by nature in a satwic state due to strict adherence of bachelorhood and observance of austerities, he is drawn towards asceticism. Therefore he makes his way to Kasi, complete with slippers, umbrella, a fan made of bamboo etc. On his way the bride’s father intervenes and advises him of the superiority of married life to an ascetic life. He also promises to give his daughter as companion to face the challenges of life. The umbrella is to remain with the groom, to remind him in the future of this advice. As promised his wife stands by him in his life. Malai Mathal The bride and groom are lifted to the shoulders of their respective maternal uncles. This is an expression of continuing sibling support to their mothers. And in that position the two garland each other thrice for a complete union. In the shastras, the exchange of garlands symbolizes their unification, as one soul in two bodies. It is inward acceptance by each of the very fragrance in the other. Oonchal The marrying couple is seated on a swing. They rock forth and back, as women sing songs to praise the couple. The bride and groom are given a sweet concoction of milk, sugar and bananas to eat. Water and lighted lamps are circulated around the swing in order to guard against demons and ghosts. Colored globules of cooked rice are waved in a circular motion and thrown away to propitiate the evil spirits. The chains of the swing signify the eternal karmic link with the Almighty. The to and fro motion represents the undulating sea-waves of life. Yet in mind and body they shall move in harmony – steady and stable. Pallikai Seeds Sowing This is a fertility rite. Pallikais are earthern pots prepared a day earlier. Pots spread at the base with hariali grass and Bael leaves (vilvam). Nine kinds of presoaked cereals are ceremoniously sown in these pots by sumangalis. After the marriage, the sprouted seedlings are released in a river or pool. This ritual invokes the blessing of the eight direction quartered guardian angels (Ashtadikh Paalaks) for a healthy life and progeny to the couple. The Main Wedding Vara Puja The feet of the bridegroom are washed in milk and wiped off with silk. This is done by the bride’s father. As a brahmachari, the groom is represented as the male principle of Godhead. The Design of the Mangal Sutra The design of the mangal sutra varies from family to family as per tradition. In Shivite families the design of the tulasi madam is highlighted where as others could have the shiva lingam or Goddess Meenakshi represented. As the Mangal Sutra lands on the middle of the bride’s chest, it symbolizes that her man has occupied the whole of her being through her heart. The bride in all ceremonies is represented as the female principle of Godhead – the Shakti. Kanya Danam The bride is made to sit on her father’s lap and is given away as a gift by him to the bridegroom. On the bride’s head, a ring made of Darbha of Kusa grass is placed. And over it is placed a yoke. The gold Mangal Sutra or Thali is placed on the aperture of the yoke. And water is poured though the aperture. The mantras chanted at this time say: “Let this gold multiply your wealth, Let this water purify your married life, And may your prosperity increase. Offer yourself to your husband.” The symbolism of the yoke is drawn out of ancient rural life where the only mode of transport for households was the bullock cart. It is supposed to signify that just as a bullock cart cannot run with just one bull, the marriage needs both the bride and groom. Both of them have to face their responsibilities together. The bride is then given an auspicious ablution. A new sari, exclusive for the occasion, called the koorai is chosen. The colour of the koorai is ‘arraku’ i.e. red, the colour associated with Shakti. This sari is draped around the bride by the sister of the bridegroom, signifying her welcome to the bride. A belt made of reed grass is then tied around the bride’s waist. The mantras then chant: "She standeth here, pure before the holy fire. As one blessed with boons of a good mind, a healthy body, life-long companionship of her husband (Sumangali Bhagyam) and children with long lives. She standeth as one who is avowed to stand by her husband virtuously. Be she tied with this reed grass rope to the sacrament of marriage." Thanksgiving vedic hymns follow, to the celestial caretakers of her childhood, the dieties of Soma, Gandharva and Agni. Having attained nubility, the girl is now free to be given over to the care of the human -- her man. The vedic concept underlying this ritual is figuratively that in her infancy Soma givers her the coolness of the moon. In the next stage of life the Gandharvas gave her playfulness and beauty. And when she becomes a maiden Agni gave her passions. The father of the bride while offering his daughter chants: “I offer ye my daughter: A maiden virtuous, good natured, very wise, decked with ornaments to the best of my abilities. With all that she shall guard thy Dharma, Wealth and Love” The bridegroom returns his assurance to the bride’s father saying three times that he shall remain for ever her companion in joy and sorrow, in this life and life after. Kankana Dhaarana The bride ties a string fastened to a piece of turmeric around the wrist of the bridegroom to bind themselves by a religious vow. It is only after tying the kankanam that the bridegroom gets the right to touch the bride. A little later, the bridegroom ties a kankanam to the bride’s wrist. Mangalya Dharanam The tying of the Mangal Sutra or Thali takes place at exactly the pre-determined auspicious hour. The bride is seated over a sheaf of grain-layden hay looking eastward while the bridegroom faces westward. The bridegroom puts the gold Mangal Sutra around the neck of the bride. As he does so the Nadaswaram is played loud and fast so as to muffle any inauspicious sounds at the critical hour. This is called Getti Melam. Sumangali ladies sing auspicious songs. At the same time as the mangal sutra a turmeric thread is also put around the bride’s neck. To this three knots are tied. The first one by the bridegroom. The other two knots are tied by the groom’s sister to make the bride a part of their family. The vedic hymn recited by the bridegroom when he ties the knot is: "I pray to the Almighty that I be blessed with a long life. I tie this knot around your neck. Oh Soubhagyawati, may providence bestow on you a fulfilling life of a Sumangali for a hundred years to come!" Paani Graharam This means holding hands. The groom holds the hand of the bride. The mantras say: "The Devas have offered you to me in order that I may live the life of a Grihasta. We shall not part from each other even when we grow old." Saptha Padhi Holding the bride’s hand the bridegroom walks seven steps around the holy fire with her. This is the most important part of the marriage ceremonly. And only when they walk these seven steps together (i.e. perform the saptha padhi) is the marriage complete. With each step they take a vow. The belief is that when one walks seven steps with another, one become’s the other’s friend. The mantras said at this time mean: "Ye who have walked with me, become my companion, whereby I acquire your friendship. We shall remain together – Inseparable. Let us make a vow together. We shall love, share the same food, share our strengths, thesame tastes. We shall be of one mind. We shall observe the vows together. I shall be the Sama and you the Rig. I shall be the upper world and you the earth. I shall be the sukhilam and you the holder. Together we shall live, beget children and other riches. Come thou, o sweet worded girl." Pala Dhanam Gifts are exchanged between the families of the bride and groom. Any gift not accompanied by a token gesture of a coin of small denomination that represents the stored value of human effort is considered incomplete; thus respecting the value of human effort through which wealth is acquired. Also no gift shall be taken without a return gesture, which merits the gift received. Pala Dhanam as ordained by the scriptures is thus an action signifying mutual arrangements between the families, to be based on the principle of equality and respect for each other irrespective of one’s economic stature in life. The return gesture by the family of the groom could never equal to the gift of the bride given to the groom. Hence, the same coin given to the groom’s family is returned to the bride’s family an acknowledgment of the priceless gift received. Pradhana Homam A crucial part of the wedding is the homage paid by the couple to Agni, the God of Fire. They couple goes around the fire, and feed it with ghee and twigs of nine types of holy trees as sacrificial fuel. The fumes that arise possess medicinal, curative and cleansing effects on the bodies of the couple. Agni, the mightiest power in the cosmos, the sacred purifier, the all-round benefactor is deemed as a witness to the sacred marriage. Hence the term ‘Agni Saakshi’ or witness by fire. Treading on the Grindstone Holding the bride’s left toe the bridegroom helps her to tread on a grindstone kept on the right side of a fire. The mantras chanted say: “Mount on this stone, and let thy mind be rock firm, unperturbed by the trials and tribulations of life.” This ritual is symbolic of the solid rock foundation for the union. Arundhati and Dhruva Star Next the groom shows the bride the star Arundhati (from the Saptha Rishi or Great Bear constellation) as also Dhruva or the pole star. Arundhati is the wife of the Vashishta Maharishi and exemplified as the ideal wife - the embodiment of charity. Dhruva is the one who attained immortality through single-minded devotion and perseverance. This is symbolic of the fact that such virtues are to be emulated throughout marital life. Laaja Homam This comprises the bride’s own offering into the sacrificial fire. As an expression of sibling support to her marriage her brother helps her. He gives her a handful of puffed rice grains which she hands to the bridegroom, who on her behalf, feeds it to the fire. Through this food offering, the bride seeks a long life for her husband and for propagation of her family. Participation of the bride’s brother indicates the continuance of links between the two families even after marriage. The couple circles the fire three times. The feeding of puffed rice to the fire is also repeated thrice. Showering of Akshadai Akshadai , i.e. rice grains coloured with turmeric and saffron are showered on the couple by elders and invitees as benediction. Graha Pravesham Taking with her fire from the Laaja Homam, the bride takes leave of her home and enters the new home of her in-laws. The vedic hymns recited at this time sound like the mother’s advice to her daughter: "Be the queen of your husband’s home. May your husband glorify your virtues! Conduct yourself in such a way that you win your mother-in-law’s love. And be in the good books of your sister-in-law." The Evening Functions Nalangu The evening of the marriage day is the time to relax and play. The newly wed wife calls her husband for play, inviting him through a song. Much to the merriment of all gathered, there follows a series of playful games. The bride anointing the groom’s feet with colour paste, fanning him, showing him a mirror, breaking papads over each other’s head. Wrenching the betel pack from each other’s hands. Rolling the coconut from one to another as in playing ball and so on. During these events women sing songs, making fun of the bride, the groom and the in-laws. These events bring out the qualities of the bride and the groom’s sporting spirit, kindness, co-operative nature thus surfacing the hidden traits for the other to note, thus bringing about better understanding and compatibility. The Night Time Homams These are the functions performed on the evening of the wedding. Jayaathi Homam This is performed to propitiate the Gandharvas and other deities. The Gandharvas and other deities. The Gandharvas are the soft natured celestial beings generally associated with the finer sentiments of life, that are so necessary for a fulfilling married life. Pravesa Homam This is done to solemnize the bride’s entry into the husband’s home. The sacrificial fire is brought along by the bride signifying that through her, new lives would be brought forth into this world; same as the fact that fire brings forth new fires. Sesha Homam Fire oblation with the residual ghee, a little of which is sprinkled on the bride’s head four times. The leftover ghee is considered sacred, the whole of which was offered to Agni. ‘Sesha’ means leftover. The idea of sprinkling this residual ghee on the bride’s head signifies strength to be drawn from the four vedas; which is left over from one yuga or era to another. Thamboola Charvanam The bride’s brother gives the ceremonial first betel to the couple to chew. Betel leaf is supposed to have aphrodisiacal properties and to be eaten only after marriage. Other gifts are also given to bless the couple with long lives and children. Mangala Arathi A solution of lime and turmeric powder is prepared on a plate, circled around before the couple and thrown away to ward of evil. This is also done a number of times during the wedding ceremony. Shanthi Muhurtham The consummation of the marriage at night fixed for an auspicious time for a happy, ever-lasting married life that is full of understanding and care. Two souls united in a sacred act of fulfillment, to bring forth progeny as nature's best creation. Notes Nadaswaram : Traditional South Indian music ensemble including the tavil (drum), nadaswaram (a sort of wind instrument) and small cymbals. Kolam or Rangoli : Designs made on the floor with rice flour paste Sowbhayam : Literally meaning good fortune. It is intended to be the good fortune of never being widowed. Mandap : A structure or building where the marriage is conducted. Puja : Prayer or worship Navagraha : The nine planets (Nava : nine, Graha : planets) Vratham : Rituals Kappu : Holy thread Indra : The King of the Gods. He is the one who rules swarga or heaven. Soma : The Moon God Chandra : The Moon Agni : The Fire God Grihasta : Householder Brahmacharya : Bachelorhood Kasi Yatra : Travel or pilgrimage to Kasi Sanyas : Asceticism Satwic : Holy and pure state of body and mind. Kasi : The most holy place of pilgrimage for a devout Hindu Malai Mathal : Exchange of Garlands Shastras : The holy scriptures Oonchal : Swing Karmic : Pertaining to karma or deeds Pallikais : A kind of earthen pot in which seeds and leaves are sown as part of a fertility ritual Sumangalis : Women who are not widowed. Vara : Groom Mangal Sutra : The ornament worn by the bride on a long chain around the neck. Mangal Sutra literally means Auspicious Bond. The Mangal Sutra in South India is akin to the wedding ring of the west. It is also called Thali. Tulasi madam : Tulasi i.e. basil which has several medicinal properties is considered to be very holy. The courtyard of every household is supposed to have a ‘madam’ (pronounce as ma - as in mother, dum - as in dumbell) or planter in which tulasi is grown. This is worshipped daily in most South Indian households. Shiva lingam : The phallic symbol which represents Lord Shiva whose abode is Mount Kailas on the Himalayan Mountains. Goddess Meenakshi : The manifestation of Shakti and consort of Lord Shiva. Kanya : Girl or literally virgin girl Danam : Gift Darbha : Dried grass Kusa grass : A variety of grass that is considered to be sacred Mantras : A holy incantation or chant Sari : The dress worn by women which is a long piece of cloth that is draped around. The sari is of various lengths and is worn in various ways through out the country. The most common one is 6 yards long with most of it going around like a skirt and a long part of it hanging over the shoulder. Koorai : Sari worn in a style that, according to tradition, can be worn only by married women. This is 9 yards long and is worn in a style that goes loosely between the legs. The long drape that is left over is then wound around the upper part of the body. Sumangali Bhagyam : the good fortune of never being widowed. Gandharva : Celestial angels who are famed for their good looks. Kankana : or kankanam - Literally means wrist ornament : a bangle or a bracelet Dhaaranam : Literally means wearing Mangalya : Another name for Mangal Sutra Devas : Gods Saptha : Literally means seven Padhi : Steps Sama and Rig : Sama and Rig are two of the four Vedas. Pala Dhanam : Gift giving Homam : Sacrifice Ghee : Clarified Butter Saptha Rishi : Literally Seven Sages Maharishi : Maharishi literally means great sage. Vashishta was one of the great sages from Vedic times. Dhruva : renowned for his single-minded devotion to God and hence was given the boon of becoming the never moving pole star. Akshadai : Blessing given by elders when grains of rice are showered on whomever is seeking blessings. Graha Pravesham : Literally means entering the house. A ritual whereby the bride goes to her new home i.e. her husband’s home for the first time. Nalangu : A session for fun and games Papad : A wafer like fried snack made of rice and other lentils.